You’re The Fixer
Compassionate, Capable, and Ready to Let Go
You’re the one who steps in, solves problems, and carries the weight of others. People lean on you because they know you’ll show up. You’re strong, dependable, and endlessly resourceful.
But there’s a hidden cost. Always being the one to fix, mediate, and hold space leaves little room for your own needs. Instead of feeling supported, you often feel heavy, overextended, and tired of holding it all together.
The Belief That’s Kept You Safe
You may have told yourself:
“It’s my job to carry everything and solve everyone else’s problems.”
That belief once gave you purpose. It helped you feel needed, valuable, and in control when things felt chaotic. But now, it weighs you down. Instead of freedom, you feel trapped under responsibilities that were never fully yours to carry.
The Truth Your Heart Knows
Here’s what’s real:
It’s safe to let go. You are allowed to stop carrying everyone.
Releasing the weight doesn’t make you weak, it makes you free. It allows others to stand on their own, while giving you the space to breathe, rest, and reconnect with yourself.
Your First Step Back to Yourself
Try the Let It Be Heavy Journaling Prompt from "Unapologetically You", a simple exercise to name what you’ve been carrying, and begin releasing what doesn’t belong to you. Writing it down helps your nervous system realize it’s safe to let go.
1. Settle in. Grab a notebook or journal and find a quiet place where you will not be interrupted for a few minutes. Take one slow breath in and a long exhale out.
2. Name the weight. Write down everything you feel you have been carrying for others. This might include responsibilities, unspoken expectations, emotional support, or tasks that do not truly belong to you.
3. Notice your body. Pause after writing each item. Ask yourself how your shoulders, chest, or stomach feel as you list it. Simply notice the heaviness without judgment.
4. Sort what is yours. Place a star next to the things that are truly yours to hold. Circle the things that belong to someone else.
5. Release the rest. On a separate page, write the phrase “I release what is not mine to carry.” List the circled items beneath it. Close your eyes for a moment and imagine yourself setting them down, as if putting down a heavy backpack.
6. Anchor in safety. Finish by writing an affirmation such as “It is safe to let go” or “I am allowed to rest.”
When You’re Ready for More
The journaling prompt is just the beginning.
In my book "Unapologetically You", you’ll learn how to:
- Step into the Main Character Mindset, reclaiming your role in your own story instead of over functioning for others (Chapter 4)
- Set boundaries with confidence so you can protect your peace and power (Chapter 6)
- Curate your energy so you stop pouring from an empty cup (Chapter 8)
This book is your roadmap for putting down what’s heavy and living lighter, freer, and more authentically.
Your Next Move
You don’t have to carry everything to be worthy. It’s safe to let go.
Get "Unapologetically You" and discover how to stop over functioning and start living for yourself.
